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Today's good thing 
20th-May-2015 07:47 pm
maddie_pink roses
Today's good thing: another good day work.

But J was out sick - - a sinus-related migraine.

I talked to J an today. I hadn't heard from her since Sunday. She was worried then she would be homeless. Turns out Sue and Tony had filed bankruptcy, and Sue doesn't get enough disability to pay it. She's moving to an apartment. Jan is letting her second storage building get repossessed and is getting another to go back at her old house. She already doesn't have internet because she's gotten it with so many places, not paid the bill and now she can't go back to them without paying the bill she owes. I feel like she's burning all her bridges.

I also feel like she wanted me to offer her the house in Rhine to stay in. I've seen how she's treated the other places she's lived, including her own mother's house... I do not want my stuff torn up and peed on by her dogs. I know, I sound horrible. And I guess if it had come down to her not having anywhere to go, I might've given in.
21st-May-2015 02:59 am (UTC)
Hope J feels better soon.

I have started two different paragraphs about the Jan situation and finally decided to limit it to this: you don't sound horrible to me, dear heart. Not at all, not even a little bit. I think you'd end up regretting it terribly if you let her use your house.
21st-May-2015 05:19 am (UTC)
She probably did want you to offer her the house in Rhine and you have such a generous heart it's clear you wish you could. But allowing her to stay there will result in the house being trashed and that's just not something you can or should do.
21st-May-2015 11:20 am (UTC)
Agree with everything that Polly and Mrs wrote!!

And may I add that I don't know the whole history or what all is available, but can't she check out any aid groups like Salvation Army (yes, I know they are homophobic but they still might help her) or something?

I'm also guessing that if you suggest this to her, she'll have 99 reasons why she can't do it. Well, Maddie, YOU are not the United Way! You're not a one-woman aid agency.

Edited at 2015-05-21 11:23 am (UTC)
21st-May-2015 07:27 pm (UTC)
I'm chiming in with my agreement as well! Trust your instinct about the Rhine house, and don't put yourself in a position where instead of looking at Jan as a friend, you end up resenting her. You both lose that way.
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